Dear humanity around the world.
As an opening, I want to share my cynic-est thought about how finding a girl/boyfriend. You know what is it? Yes, to me, there is a short run trade-offs between the qualities of face (handsomeness or beauty-ness) of a people, with the how long her/his love relationship will he/she kept.
Now here’s the logic. A person with a good looking face will usually disloyal to his/her relationship. Why? Assume that he or she knows that he or she has a good looking face, this kind of people will have nothing to lose if they failed his/her relationship. Why, they’ll easy to get a new one. Another effect is they have a high bargaining power if they have a conflict with their couple.
Otherwise, people with a not-good looking face will usually more loyal to his/her relationship. Yes you know why, they are realize that looking for people that loves him/her is really hard, with an assumption that he or she know that he or she has a not-good looking face, and feel very depressed finding his/her lover. They’ll uneasy to get a new one. And of course, they’ll have a low bargaining power.
Are you belief in that? It’s up to you. Maybe it’ll help you to find your perfect girl/boyfriend.
But that is not the main idea ladies and gentleman, that is only my shallow thought with a lot of assumption. And... it is short run. When the relationship turns to long run, we can decrease the assumption, because the factor that support the relationship is increase, such as; commitment, trust, willingness to sacrifice, etc. Couples will start to learn how precious their relationship is in long run. Why, because they start to use HEART not ego.
To explain this, I will use that two shallow theorem up there. A person with good looking, will start to realize that their good looking face will be useless to his/her relationship, unless they use their heart to feel this relationship precious. They will decrease his bargaining power and start to give it to their pair.
A person with not-good looking will have their confidence increase, because their pair has shown a true meaning of love, they not just love by looking on the face, but the personality. So their bargaining power will increase though.
If you agree with the explanation above, you will agree with this conclusion.
“THE LONG RUN RELATIONSHIP WILL MAKE ALL EQUALIZE”
So guys, make your relationship a long run one. When is it? It’s like the Theory of Production. Short run production is when we just only increase one factor of production and let the others same. And productions enter the long run when we increase more than one factor of production to increase output. It takes same with this SR and LR Theory of Love. The assumption of this theory is all people is approach the one who they love for the reason of his or her face quality (but in real world, a lot of people act like this right?). When you just only enter the Quality of Face as your Factor of Love and let your COMMITMENT, TRUST, WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE, etc. stay the same, you are having an Short Run Relationship. This relationship tends to be uneverlasting and you won’t get anything from it. But when you increase another Factor of Love, COMMITMENT, TRUST, and WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE, you will make the relationship is possible to be everlasting and you’ll learn a lot from this relationship.
So, you knew the benefits of Long Run Relationship, why you won’t try? Like AIESEC said, “it’s up to you!”
As an opening, I want to share my cynic-est thought about how finding a girl/boyfriend. You know what is it? Yes, to me, there is a short run trade-offs between the qualities of face (handsomeness or beauty-ness) of a people, with the how long her/his love relationship will he/she kept.
Now here’s the logic. A person with a good looking face will usually disloyal to his/her relationship. Why? Assume that he or she knows that he or she has a good looking face, this kind of people will have nothing to lose if they failed his/her relationship. Why, they’ll easy to get a new one. Another effect is they have a high bargaining power if they have a conflict with their couple.
Otherwise, people with a not-good looking face will usually more loyal to his/her relationship. Yes you know why, they are realize that looking for people that loves him/her is really hard, with an assumption that he or she know that he or she has a not-good looking face, and feel very depressed finding his/her lover. They’ll uneasy to get a new one. And of course, they’ll have a low bargaining power.
Are you belief in that? It’s up to you. Maybe it’ll help you to find your perfect girl/boyfriend.
But that is not the main idea ladies and gentleman, that is only my shallow thought with a lot of assumption. And... it is short run. When the relationship turns to long run, we can decrease the assumption, because the factor that support the relationship is increase, such as; commitment, trust, willingness to sacrifice, etc. Couples will start to learn how precious their relationship is in long run. Why, because they start to use HEART not ego.
To explain this, I will use that two shallow theorem up there. A person with good looking, will start to realize that their good looking face will be useless to his/her relationship, unless they use their heart to feel this relationship precious. They will decrease his bargaining power and start to give it to their pair.
A person with not-good looking will have their confidence increase, because their pair has shown a true meaning of love, they not just love by looking on the face, but the personality. So their bargaining power will increase though.
If you agree with the explanation above, you will agree with this conclusion.
“THE LONG RUN RELATIONSHIP WILL MAKE ALL EQUALIZE”
So guys, make your relationship a long run one. When is it? It’s like the Theory of Production. Short run production is when we just only increase one factor of production and let the others same. And productions enter the long run when we increase more than one factor of production to increase output. It takes same with this SR and LR Theory of Love. The assumption of this theory is all people is approach the one who they love for the reason of his or her face quality (but in real world, a lot of people act like this right?). When you just only enter the Quality of Face as your Factor of Love and let your COMMITMENT, TRUST, WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE, etc. stay the same, you are having an Short Run Relationship. This relationship tends to be uneverlasting and you won’t get anything from it. But when you increase another Factor of Love, COMMITMENT, TRUST, and WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE, you will make the relationship is possible to be everlasting and you’ll learn a lot from this relationship.
So, you knew the benefits of Long Run Relationship, why you won’t try? Like AIESEC said, “it’s up to you!”
4 comments:
haha.. i really know what you are talking about bro..
Is this.. based on Dhaniel Ilyas Theorem?
not dhaniel ilyas,,, its my own thought guys,,,
yeah, dhaniel ilyas theorem about 2 variables for utility of searching couple : good looking and material posesion.
and yes, uchal, your cynical thought about SR relationship needs a lot of assumption.it's a very specified case, because real world not as simple as that..
well off course you can not ignore the power of preferences (not all people like the good looking one, "handsome/pretty" is an adjective, which the value is so relative), the substitution goods, the expectation of society (example: a college student of FEUI will be expected a better future than the other), and a lot more.
And if you talking about equilibrium, you must see it also from supply side, which also has a lot of assumption.
that's all i can say..
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