The Theory of Love (SR and LR Case)

Dear humanity around the world.

As an opening, I want to share my cynic-est thought about how finding a girl/boyfriend. You know what is it? Yes, to me, there is a short run trade-offs between the qualities of face (handsomeness or beauty-ness) of a people, with the how long her/his love relationship will he/she kept.

Now here’s the logic. A person with a good looking face will usually disloyal to his/her relationship. Why? Assume that he or she knows that he or she has a good looking face, this kind of people will have nothing to lose if they failed his/her relationship. Why, they’ll easy to get a new one. Another effect is they have a high bargaining power if they have a conflict with their couple.

Otherwise, people with a not-good looking face will usually more loyal to his/her relationship. Yes you know why, they are realize that looking for people that loves him/her is really hard, with an assumption that he or she know that he or she has a not-good looking face, and feel very depressed finding his/her lover. They’ll uneasy to get a new one. And of course, they’ll have a low bargaining power.

Are you belief in that? It’s up to you. Maybe it’ll help you to find your perfect girl/boyfriend.

But that is not the main idea ladies and gentleman, that is only my shallow thought with a lot of assumption. And... it is short run. When the relationship turns to long run, we can decrease the assumption, because the factor that support the relationship is increase, such as; commitment, trust, willingness to sacrifice, etc. Couples will start to learn how precious their relationship is in long run. Why, because they start to use HEART not ego.

To explain this, I will use that two shallow theorem up there. A person with good looking, will start to realize that their good looking face will be useless to his/her relationship, unless they use their heart to feel this relationship precious. They will decrease his bargaining power and start to give it to their pair.

A person with not-good looking will have their confidence increase, because their pair has shown a true meaning of love, they not just love by looking on the face, but the personality. So their bargaining power will increase though.

If you agree with the explanation above, you will agree with this conclusion.

“THE LONG RUN RELATIONSHIP WILL MAKE ALL EQUALIZE”

So guys, make your relationship a long run one. When is it? It’s like the Theory of Production. Short run production is when we just only increase one factor of production and let the others same. And productions enter the long run when we increase more than one factor of production to increase output. It takes same with this SR and LR Theory of Love. The assumption of this theory is all people is approach the one who they love for the reason of his or her face quality (but in real world, a lot of people act like this right?). When you just only enter the Quality of Face as your Factor of Love and let your COMMITMENT, TRUST, WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE, etc. stay the same, you are having an Short Run Relationship. This relationship tends to be uneverlasting and you won’t get anything from it. But when you increase another Factor of Love, COMMITMENT, TRUST, and WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE, you will make the relationship is possible to be everlasting and you’ll learn a lot from this relationship.

So, you knew the benefits of Long Run Relationship, why you won’t try? Like AIESEC said, “it’s up to you!”

Being thankful is ultimate medicine for envy-ness?

Dear humanity around the world...

Do you ever feel so ambitious for something or maybe being someone for what you dont have? This term of sentence called ‘envy’. Dictionary.com said that envy in noun is a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another's advantages, success, possessions, etc.

It’s human for somebody (as a human) want to have, possess, or become someone else that better-off than him/her. In Economics, we study Utility Curve, that told us rational human being will choose higher option that give him bigger utility. Everyone of us must realize it. When we have no money, we want money, so they looking for income. When we have money we want food. When our stomach is full we want house to live in. When we settled we need somone to accompany us. When we have family we want to show to the world who are we. We want more and more.

But what in my thought is, what’s make somebody want to be better of. I mean, why dont somebody just sit down and relax in his house than searching for fame by doing something? So i am thinking, and the answer is the fuel of all hierarchy is ENVY-ness.

A college lazy student that study in the high-rank university (assumed that all of his friend are genius) will try to standardize his brain to all of his friend. Because in rational, this boy will fell so discomfort if he can’t reach the same level by in example; study harder. Why he become genius for later on? Because he is study harder for the sake of ENVY. He envys his friends that already reach the genius level.

Now imagine that a very lazy student (because there’s no stupid student) enter the low-rank university (assumed that all of his friend are lazy too). I guarantee that this student will not reach the same level as if he enter the high-rank university, because is he has no one to envy of.
Ladies and gentlemen, ENVY is really a fuel to change our hierarchy. There’s a lot of facts you can find is the real life. You can see it from working environment, why somebody one to obtain higher position.

But, there’s a proverb that say ‘Being thankful is ultimate medicine for envy-ness’. ENVY is the fuel for changing hierarchy. Why it need medicine? By thankful and medicize this envy, how can somebody move to better hierarchy? I just thinking there’s something wrong with this proverb. My opinion is thankful is not the medicine. For the reason, envy doesn’t need medicine. We should have envy-ness in ourself. Without it people never developed himself. But (i’m thinking again), a very high, ambitious, envy, makes you becoming a bad guy. You even legalize all your way to get your goal. People might steal or rob when they want money. People might bribe when they want a higher position. And a student, might cheat during the test, when they want high score. So, why this thankfulness is said to be medicine, because it stop a chance for somebody to do a bad behavior. It stop a criminal to rob money. It makes people think rationally. Mm, it just my opninion and my shallow thoughts. You can suggest your idea or correction in the comment section.

So people, be thankful!
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Nerevarine
everybody is a superhero somehow

You Will Never Walk Alone

dear humanity around the world,

"But if the rain must fall, If i lose it all, If the world comes down and takes my soul, If the sky turns black, And theres no no way back, It won't matter much to me, If i had you, All i need is your love, That's all i need, All i need is your love"

If The Rain Must Fall - James Morrison

Yes, another inspiring song, to pump up your spirit. Like Hakuna Matata.

Allright. Because Mr. Wirapati would like me to post my welcoming post, so i'll try to create it. First of all. An introduction of course.

My name is Kautsar Primadi Nurahmad. People called me Uchal. I'm a contributors of this blogs. I'm a student of University of Indonesia.Undergraduates of economics faculty, majoring in Economics. I'm a 2006 student. Because Syaria is not yet opened for concentration in my year, so i will have Public and Enviromental Economics next year. Please pray for me everyone.

I'm kind of a fast-boring person. So i will sometimes leave this blog for few weeks.

Mostly i will talk about review of something, love, or maybe news. Sometimes i have bad punctuation (bad typo). So, i request your forgive and leave comment on my post, so i can correct it.

So people, wait for my post! See You!

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Nerevarine
"Everybody is a Superhero Somehow"