Reasons=Conditions

Hi,



I really apreciate Royben, who keep posting good writings on this blog. And after idle for months, I want to try write something that I was thinking this morning.



Begin with simple question. A loverbird often ask about this:



"Why me? Why do you love me?"



A question begin with 'why' usually answered with 'because..' or a reason. Some might answer it, "because you seems love me that much," or "because you are kind, caring, funny, etc..'



me?



I'd rather answer. "you know what? I don't think I need a reason to love you."

hahaha.. you might find it silly. But I think if I give reason WHY I love someone, it means I love that person conditionally. If, for example, I love someone because that person cares about me. Then someday he doesn't care again, should I stop loving him?



The same thing if you say this statement.

"the reason why I change myself is because of you."



I personally don't think changing myself for someone else is a good idea. It gives a condition to your changes. If the person is gone, would you still maintain the changes? well.. i'm not crazy about changes. i love my comfort zone. i do open myself for critics.but changing myself for someone else for me is.. ridiculuos.

So at least i learn one point here. if you give reason for something, for some situations and circumstances, you also give condition. and i really don't need a reason to make me a better person.

so yes, the reason i change myself definitely NOT because of you :)