Love Is a Lie?

Good day, people. Wew, first posting. A bit scary for me. But I try my best. Here we go.

Amor es mentira, love is a lie. First time I saw this Spanish proverb, I was shocked. My crush wrote this as his shout out on friendster. What does he mean? Is love some kind of bullsh*t to him? That he doesn't believe in love at all? And I'm getting frustrated because I really have no idea what this proverb means. And of course, if he don't believe in love, it means that I have no chance to get into him.

But 3 months after I saw it, finally i got the answer. Fresh from the first hand (from my ex-crush who is becoming my boyfriend now).

He said that love can make somebody acts like someone else, can make somebody do something that he/she usually don't. It makes mature person become childish. It also makes a genius become a fool. Making a wise one become so rushed. And turns the sane become crazily driven. Vise versa. That's why Spanish people make this proverb, amor es mentira.

I thought about it for days. And reflect it on my own experience. And I think that this proverb has one very important variable, CHANGES. That people are willing to CHANGE because of love. Of course there's the positive and negative changes because of love itself to every single human being.

Well, sometimes love become a positive incentives to stop bad habit and start the good one. The heavy smoker stop smoking (or at least, try to stop) because the one they love hates smokers. Many examples that we can see in daily life. Not only habit, sometimes love can force us to change something bigger, like our way of thinking. I experience it by myself. I must follow the way my lover thinking, which much more mature because he 5 years older than me.

This changes are a better offs. A positive changes that can lead the human to be a better person. Well, although in my opinion, I don't believe changes made because of somebody else (not because of the individual willingness) lasts forever. Once the reason gone, we will back to the old person, before we change. Anyway, i called it as white lies. Lies made by love but good for the person.

But, there are other cases where the person are worsen by love itself. They do the things that in normal condition, are not acceptable. But they legitimate it by the name of blind love. It's common when a student had a bad scores and blame the “monkey love” for making them can not concentrate well. Or people do the crazy things to attract their crush.

And the worst cases usually happened when someone had a broken heart. Heart ache, because of love. Try to smoke, drink, or even drugs. To forget his/her pain. To kill it, actually. Not only damage physically, but mentally as well. Trauma, a deep wound in heart. Sometimes make someone's heart suffer ache, hatred, grudge. And i called it black lies. Okay, sounds stupid. But this because contrary to the white lies, this type of lies made by love are worsen the person.

My opinion, it depends the person who suffer love itself. Try to control the power of love to change it for good reason. Or let the love beat you, take you to dark places. Kills you.

Have you ever experience it? Please, share it. Or if you don't agree with me. Please, correct me if I have mistakes. Thanks.